I hope that you are getting ready for your long weekend!
Here are a few words of wisdom to ponder over the next 3 days:
“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You must do the thing which you think you cannot do.
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-Eleanor Roosevelt
Growing up, school dances were a significant source of anxiety for me. When I was 14, I had no idea how to talk to girls, much less ask them out. What would I say? What if she says no, or already has a date? Where would I run if I bombed or froze up? Those were legitimate fears of mine – after all, isn’t rejection a teenager’s worst enemy.
I know I’m not alone in this. No matter how suave and smooth you may be, putting yourself out there is scary. Everyone’s had that moment where they had to psych themselves up to approach a member of the opposite sex… And the longer you wait, the more anxiety you feel. Then the fear sets in. If I were a braver soul, I would write a whole book about fear.
We’ve all been told not to give in to fear. And more so constantly if you’re a male in our culture. Fear is somehow a bad thing. So is failure. At least, that’s what we’re told. Well, that is a lie!
If you dwell on fear, you get a mental block and stop working effectively toward your goal. If I wrote a book about fear , would you read it? Maybe you won’t read this message. You’ll skip it because maybe you’re worried (more fear!) that I’ll make you feel guilty.
Fear is a powerful and useful tool. But, just like fire, you have to respect it, and you have to choose to use it that way. Fire is necessary for human survival (cooking food, purifying water, cauterizing wounds), but it can burn a house down just as easily. Fear is the same. It can burn your mental house down.
I use fear to get informed, I am motivated by fear, but I never let it guide me. How about you? Do you feel fear, and are you moving forward? It’s simple, but it’s not easy. Just remember, your excuses will never be as interesting as the story of how you got it done.
I’ll tell you a few more secrets about fear, if you’re interested:
- Fear without knowledge is amplified.
- Fear without a plan is debilitating.
- Fear without a goal is endless
“Fear will crush and dominate more dreams than failure ever will.”
What fixes it all?
- Fear without knowledge is amplified – so I seek knowledge of what I needed to do.
- Fear without a plan is debilitating – so I have a plan to keep me moving forward.
- Fear without a goal is endless – so I put a simple goal in place.
I create a purpose so I can grab a hold of fear and keep my business (and life) on a simple track.
If you find this interesting, let’s grab a coffee soon. I would love to learn all about you and your business and see if I can be of help, or just learn about you and hear your story.
Remember, I’m always here to help you and your clients win. It’s what I LOVE to do.
Now, go DOMINATE your week!
Carlos
